As I've said before, I'm getting married -- almost exactly a year from today, in fact -- when I myself have never been to a wedding before. So the planning process is especially intimidating; until now, I've had absolutely no idea where to begin. Should we make a guest list first? When do we need to decide on our venue? Are artisanal cupcakes always this expensive?
I'm sure the overwhelming prospect of planning such a huge event isn't exclusive to me, and even seasoned wedding crashers start to stress out the first day post-engagement. Whether you're inviting 500 guests or limiting attendance to immediate family only, the pressure is on. Tradition holds that this is supposed to be the most special day of your life, or whatever, second only to childbirth and maybe your Disney World honeymoon. If you and your guests don't have the absolute time of your lives, you failed! Obviously that's not true, but it can feel that way sometimes. Especially if you can't afford a wedding planner -- guess what? You're a wedding planner now.
I'm lucky enough to live in a beach town where couples come from all over the East Coast to marry. There's lots of wedding services in this region, which is certainly a positive thing, but it also adds another element of doubt: how do I know I'm getting the best services for my vision and for my budget?
That's where the expos, conventions and bridal shows come in. In January, when I was freshly engaged, I started doing a little research and found that there was an annual bridal show in Ocean City. I immediately ordered my tickets, which totally wasn't necessary because they were for sale at the door day-of, but I was just so excited that my prayers had been kind of answered; some of the peninsula's top wedding services and vendors would be gathered in one place, and I'd get to interact with them face-to-face instead of staring at a screen or leafing through a brochure.
That brings me to what I've discovered to be the ideal first step in the wedding planning process:
Take advantage of the expos!
Because unless you work in the business yourself, you probably won't immediately know exactly which florist, caterer and hairdresser is going to suit your specific needs. Besides getting advice from trusted and experienced friends and family, the bridal show/wedding expo/'bout-to-be-married convention/whatever you want to call it is the best way to start making local contacts and getting ideas.
I attended the Ocean City Bridal Expo, hosted by Rox Weddings at Seacrets Jamaica USA, on April 8. My fiancé and I met up with my family there, and we spent hours at the different tables where we talked to vendors, sampled finger foods and collected business cards. There was a fashion show that featured suits for the grooms and groomsmen and dresses for the brides, bridesmaids and mothers-of-the-bride. The vendors raffled off prizes, and I won a five-piece luggage set courtesy of Bethany Travel (although I promise I would have written this raving review of the bridal show even if I hadn't won anything).
Even if you're not sold on any of the particular services offered at whichever bridal show you attend, you'll certainly leave with a clearer vision of how you want your wedding to be. So before you pick a date, check when the next wedding expo is coming to Ocean City, or wherever it is you're getting married (although I, of course, highly recommend OC).
After that, download The Knot. It's an app, and it's not related to expos or conventions per se, but it has been extremely helpful to me in organizing a checklist/timeline of all the things I need to do, by when. Then after that, ask any recently-married friends and family members which vendors they'd recommend, in addition to how they stayed sane through it all. Then finally, when the day comes, hit the bridal show, sip a cocktail or two and collect oodles of information that'll help you further down the line.
By Traci of Beach Bride Chic
As a fairly new Beach Wedding company, our first wedding expo was a great introduction to what our beach brides are looking for!
We just loved hearing the "oohs and ahhs" from people with large smiles on their faces as they looked at our novelty items, like the wet bikini bags for beach honeymoons and the handmade boutonnieres made from recycled wine corks. Being such a niche company, it was nice to stand out but also learn from the masters of the wedding industry who have been creatively planning local weddings for years.
There was a beautiful set up by BB Wed from Barefoot Beach Bride, who also won top placement in the Ocean City, Maryland St. Patrick's Day Parade the day before the expo (it was a very busy weekend). They have some great connections to some of the most beautiful places on the Eastern Shore of Maryland and Delaware.
We were also able to try great food and desserts, of course! The tuna poke from Taste Events was our absolute favorite. The tuna poke tasted like it was straight out of the ocean across the street. Taste Events has award-winning chefs that help every bride and groom pick stellar items, especially when it comes to coastal cuisine. Harrison Group was there as well to show all their beautiful hotel locations, where views of the ocean and bay are possible in every picture.
This expo definitely made us feel welcome in the local wedding community because everyone was helpful and appreciated our individuality. Helping each bride in many different ways is what we're here for, and it's easy to help them here thanks to our beautiful water views and clean sandy beaches.
Beach Bride Chic started because we are from the area, born and raised, so every time we saw a beach wedding it was always beautiful because of the gorgeous backdrop of the Atlantic Ocean.
Thanks to Premier Bride for putting on their 6th annual Bridal Expo this year. I know we felt welcome and organized for our first show. Even one of the lucky brides who attended won a free honeymoon to Hawaii, a getaway anyone would want to win. The setup and clean-up time was worth it when we had happy soon-to-be brides and views of the ocean and bay on both sides!
Yes, it's true. I, the editor of OceanCityWeddings.com, got engaged a few days before Christmas. It looks like I'm going to be planning a wedding!
What I'm most excited about is, obviously, getting to be married to the love of my life, who I already essentially feel married to (we live together and have a dog), but why not make it official, for perks like joint bank accounts and visitation rights if either of us is ever hospitalized and what not. And love.
But what I'm second-most excited about is getting to document my wedding planning experience here on this blog. It's not so much the wedding planning that excites me; my hands are already very full with my full-time and part-time jobs, running a film festival, keeping the dog happy and exercised, and finding just enough spare time at the end of the day to maintain my sanity. Adding a wedding on top of everything else sounds a lot like adding that last playing card that brings the tower down.
We're not getting married immediately. As of now, we're thinking March or April of 2019 for the big day, which gives us a little over a year to plan. I would be happy eloping, but for the sake of my family and friends and the hope that I'll get to pass on some advice to future newlyweds, we'll be having a small ceremony here in Ocean City. There's a possibility we might decide on a beach wedding and push the date back further, to May or June (we know how downright freezing it can still be here before then).
The date is all we've really thought about at this point, and even that is up in the air. The date, and that we'd like to do this somewhat frugally, in order to save money for a honeymoon that'll possibly happen somewhere in the United Kingdom.
The first wedding I'll ever attend will be my own, so everything about this experience is totally new to me! We'll be taking the planning at a slow and steady pace, and I'll be keeping the blog updated with the experiences I have, from dress shopping to flowers to deciding on a venue, whether it's the beach or a hotel or a schooner in the middle of the Atlantic.
Please wish me luck as I embark on this totally alien journey, and feel free to send any advice my way, especially as it pertains to getting married in Ocean City. I'll be relying on our trusty professional wedding planning bloggers more than ever in this next year, but I always appreciate the knowledge of those that have done this before!
By Tony Russo
Ocean City is a fantastic couple’s getaway which is why proposing on the beach is so popular. It isn’t as if you need a reason to propose in Ocean City. After all, for so many people who visit here the beach is as central a part of growing up as any other of the milestones. From your first getaway alone during Senior Week, to your first getaway as a couple to (hopefully) your retirement home.
There are a million great reasons to propose in Ocean City, though, but here are four of our favorites.
This article first appeared on OceanCity.com on June 5, 2017
1. It's the perfect automatic backdrop
2. It's the perfect way to commemorate something you love to do together
3. It's a perfect and permanent memory
"This photo was taken June 16, 2016. My fiancé of now four-and-a-half years proposed to me when we were waiting to go on the Get Sum fishing charter on the dock. We had always gone on vacation to Ocean City with his family or with my family. It was our first vacation together when he popped the question! We are getting married this year July 15, 2017 and of course our honeymoon is going to be well spent in Ocean City! My name is Rebecca Haschak and my fiancé is Brian Cunningham."
4. It's the perfect prelude to a stunning beach wedding